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artwork “Lovers in the moonlight” by Marc Chagall

How many sentiments

Tender and soft-hearted

Fit on a sheet of red paper

Cleanly cut

After folded in two?

How many long and deliberate strides to shear out our hearts?

The crisp cardboard rasp

The blade sounding

Against the vellum

Yielding and permissive to measured cuts.

How many pecks between us these 12054 days?

Pink candied smooches

Boxed,

And blushed rosy

Our sweet discontent?

How many white moon faced nights

Did, by chance,

Round us up with scissored bodies and

Laced our swelling hearts

In fire and in fate?

Oh,

I can not say,

The numbered times did hands

Pen fancy whorls upon the naked breast

And finger ringlets of hair.

But alas,

I do reckon one white parcel

Knotted in fat, red yarn

That unwrapped

Such a child’s faith.

February 14, 2017

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What do you want? You want the moon? Just say the word and throw a lasso around it and pull it down. You can have the moon. The moon, a pony, what are we talking about here? Are we talking about what you want or are we talking about what you fantasize about wanting.

Hm, big difference.

This week is a good time to sort some things out, especially where the desire for love is concerned. Remember love? The truth of love is way bigger than the moon. It has a far greater reach then the child within you ever imagined, and yet love can be as easy eating candy.

The Moon and Venus are conjunct in Scorpio and trine Neptune in Pisces while Pluto is in Capricorn. Let this aspect support an interesting perspective as you consider your heart’s desire. Notice your typically fixed pattern of behavior in response to the stimuli of “love.” Is your response driven by your sensitivity? Is it something you can feel right now? Or is it more motivated by your practicality? Is it something you think about?

Does it compel you into a mental and emotional frenzy around the acquisition of it?  Some might say this could feel like walking a tight rope. And some might think that this compulsion threatens them with a fall from grace. And you know what happens when a person thinks they will fall.

This week, bridge the gap between what you think, feel, and desire. How can you bring the three experience together in a way that is useful to you?  It might go something like this:

I want to feel connected.  I want to feel like I belong where I am. I know that feeling. I think it is useful and it compels me to seek it out, finding a thread of it here and length of it there. Pretty soon my instinct for roping it in is pretty good.

Sort it out. What do you want? What do you fantasize about? Can you make them come into balance?


In the midst of what you see as problematic, it can be difficult to recognize the opportunities. I can help you discover a new way of thinking that will assist you in managing and negotiating life’s obstacles. You will find that this new way of thinking provides you opportunities that you hadn’t previously noticed as well as affords you the confidence and desire to live your life in the driver’s seat.

Tami Satterfield, MSW, LCSW-C, NBCCH, HTP is a licensed psychotherapist who practices solution-oriented healing from a deep ecological perspective. Her specialities include hypnosis for anxiety, performance, and creativity. Sessions on-line or in Boulder, Colorado include cutting edge brain therapies that will change the way you think. Learn more at attentiontoliving.com

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Freud proposed that we, the dreamer, are all the players in our dreams. Each player representing a different part of the self, demonstrating to us our internal workings around a particular problem. You don’t have to wait to dream to reveal to yourself the ways you might be defending against yourself.

We have a full Moon lunar eclipse in Pisces on Friday with Mars in Sagittarius squaring the Sun and the Moon. The plot of that story goes something like this:

A person begins something new that is meant to expand their “love” horizon. Now before you think this post is not for you because you are not looking to expand your love horizons, let me respectfully correct you. We are all always looking for love. Remember the 6 different kinds of love that compose the vibration of love?  If you need a refresher, click here.  And now back to our story.

A person begins something new in order to expand their love connection.  A new way of thinking will likely be the foundation that the person will lean into while building the new thing that is intended to provide them with an expanded love connection. (If you are confused as to why the foundation of a new beginning requires a change in thinking, see me after class.) So the person is beginning anew, and the person imagines that this anew will provide them meaningful structure to their life. The way a relationship to anyone or anything can do – even a relationship with your self. But in this story the person struggles to prevail. They are caught between what seems like common sense and what seems like desire. Seem familiar?

Who are you in this story? Are you the main character, the one struggling to prevail over the deception of the antagonist?  Or are you the antagonist, the one fueling the battle between common sense and desire? Could you be the character of influence, the fool, the one who challenges, but ultimately supports the main character’s strife? Are you a sidekick, a good old pal, but just along for the ride? How might you be working against yourself in the story line and how might that be aiding you?  Rest assured that there is some faction of yourself fighting you. This isn’t necessarily a bad thing, after all dissension in a group can affirm that a decision was made with all the information and not just the information you wanted to see.

Write down what you are wanting to create. Then list your struggles to prevail, noting with each struggle the considerations to common sense and desire. Now, cast yourself in all the parts. Any victims or martyrs lurking beneath?  Are there any super heros?  Are there roles that are indifferent to the struggle, but interested in the journey?  How does this story best resolve itself if the main character succeeds and feels satisfied about their success?  Might the story take an expected turn of events?

During the Full Moon, let your main character throw a spotlight on your fears and insecurities and look to your unconscious mind to bring out other parts of yourself to help you overcome the adversity you might be facing. Let this be an opportunity to marry your beliefs to your desires in a way that you can journey forward in your own story.  This full moon, forgive yourself for being human and seemingly falling short of your dreams.  It is never to late to edit!


In the midst of what you see as problematic, it can be difficult to recognize the opportunities. I can help you discover a new way of thinking that will assist you in managing and negotiating life’s obstacles. You will find that this new way of thinking provides you opportunities that you hadn’t previously noticed as well as affords you the confidence and desire to live your life in the driver’s seat.

Tami Satterfield, MSW, LCSW-C, NBCCH, HTP is a licensed psychotherapist who practices solution-oriented healing from a deep ecological perspective. Her specialities include hypnosis for anxiety, performance, and creativity. Sessions on-line or in Boulder, Colorado include cutting edge brain therapies that will change the way you think. Learn more at attentiontoliving.com

 

 

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Mercury went retrograde this week and I am already having issues with communication.  I understood tht Mercury was going retrograde.  I saw it on my calendar and very matter of factly I thought, “Okay, so this is going to happen and now I am prepared.” And, like white on rice, and, as sure as the day is long, there was trouble.  It started first with my email correspondances, expanded to other aspects of my Comcast service, and then progressed into my communication with a human being at Comcast.  I was surprised at how I felt by the end of the day.  I figured that since I had thought about the retrograde, I wouldn’t feel so much about what might occur during the retrograde. Afterall, I had thought about it. Silly me.

I understand that a human being thinks between 40,000 – 70,000 thoughts a day. I understand that those very thoughts inform the emotions that a human being experiences. I understand that those emotional experiences inform a human being’s physiology.  I understand that a human being’s physiology inspires their reality. I understand it, but sometimes I don’t know it.

Hmm, pause for consideration.

The difference between understanding something and knowing it is profound. Understanding something requires the acquisition of information in order to arrange it into a logical sequence that can then be determined reasonable. So, it is true that I do understand the scientific, as well as the practical applications of the above described process. But sometimes I don’t “know” it. Sometimes I forget to live my life alive in my body, and instead I think my way through my life as if it is a reasonable journey in my head. That is when there is trouble.

We are shifting today into a Sun, Saturn, Neptune square. What does that mean? It means that if you are the betting kind, you can bet that my ego has better than 50/50 odds of getting in my way.

Now, this has never happened to me before. My ego has never gotten the best of me.  I have never thought I knew exactly how something would go, and then lived like my reasoning was the God’s honest truth. I mean, I am always a very thoughtful person. I am sure that earlier this week when the Comcast service wouldn’t work and it became clear that I would have to call Comcast, that I understood that it would be a long drawn-out battle of wits regarding the trouble. And I understood all of that even before I punched the number in my phone.  I understood that there would be a prompt for my personal information that would be repeated by an operator and then again repeated by the person of higher authority that I would be transferred to 20 minutes into the call. I understood all of that. I did. I understood the reality of my life the instance my service faultered.  I understood everything.

But did I know?  Did I feel my anxiety at the first indication of trouble and allow my brain with my body to process that anxiety?  Did I feel the steady rise of my blood pressure through out the 40 minute call and allow my brain with my body to process my anger?  Did I feel the heartfelt sadness that inspired ruminating thoughts about Comcast well past the restoration of my service and allow my brain with my body to process the sorrow of a break in communication?  Nope.  I sure didn’t.  I was in my head where I think I know everything, but I really know nothing.

I was in my head where I think too much about thinking about it.  I was in my head where I pay little attention to how I feel. If I had paid attention to my thoughts and my feelings, I would have known that without more consciousness, the call would likely be tough.  I would have known that without more consciousness, the call could be just as I thought it to be.  If I had paid better attention to what I thought, how I emoted, and the sensations in my body, I may have known that I was already well into playing my part in creating a dissatisfactory experience for myself.  The experience where I think, “this is trouble,” then I feel afraid, then I think “this won’t go well,” then I feel angry, then I act defensively, then I think repeatedly, “is it me or is it them?” and then I feel sad and disconnected. If I had known more information instead of only thinking I understood, I might have known that it was in my best interest to shift into a more comfortable position before getting on that Comcast bus.

Moving forward: 1. Mind your nevers and always. 2. Mind the size of your britches – just because you think it, doesn’t make it real. 3. Let yourself feel the way you feel. 4. Trust that there is a wealth of information in your emotions and sensations in your body.  5. Let your thoughts, emotions, and sensations in your body show you more then you think.

Go ahead.  Know more than you think you do?  Now what do you want to do about your call to Comcast?

Note for those of you waiting in line at the Love Shack:
I am pulling double duty on this one and if you want you can too. Are you working Operation Love? If so, re-read this through the lens of love and have the Greeks by your side. What perceived notions do you have about yourself concerning love? Do you believe them? Are they real or do you believe (think) they are real? Now, forget about what you think. What do you feel about what the Greek Chorus has to say? Now what do you know?


In the midst of what you see as problematic, it can be difficult to recognize the opportunities. I can help you discover a new way of thinking that will assist you in managing and negotiating life’s obstacles. You will find that this new way of thinking provides you opportunities that you hadn’t previously noticed as well as affords you the confidence and desire to live your life in the driver’s seat.

Tami Satterfield, MSW, LCSW-C, NBCCH, HTP is a licensed psychotherapist who practices solution-oriented healing from a deep ecological perspective. Her specialities include hypnosis for anxiety, performance, and creativity. Sessions on-line or in Boulder, Colorado include cutting edge brain therapies that will change the way you think. Learn more at attentiontoliving.com

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I am getting this out early this week to give you plenty of time to find the thing that supports you. The moon is in Taurus and that is something you can count on. Like the steady pull of gravity, sometimes something so strong and reliable can feel like a drag, but you’ve gotta admit that you are glad it is there.

Whatever you find your reliable thing to be, your job, your neighbor, your cat, your family, your creativity, your history, whatever it is, take this week to see it through the lens of love. If you need, you can refer to my post called Love after the Neptune fog clears. The Greeks defined love in terms of 6 kinds of love.  Use the coming universal weather to help you deepen your understanding of love.

With the moon in Taurus let yourself lean into something that clearly supports you and then see how many of the Greek aspects of love you can experience in this thing. Enjoy what you learn. Feel the truth of it. In a short time we will experience the mutable T-square that includes the Sun, Venus, Mercury and Jupiter in Virgo. Remember the movie One flew over the cuckoos nest? Now is the time to get ahead of your Nurse Ratched, mind the lessons from Mr. McMurphy and consider that the artist Rene Magritte asks you to consider things may not be what they seem to be.


In the midst of what you see as problematic, it can be difficult to recognize the opportunities. I can help you discover a new way of thinking that will assist you in managing and negotiating life’s obstacles. You will find that this new way of thinking provides you opportunities that you hadn’t previously noticed as well as affords you the confidence and desire to live your life in the driver’s seat.

Tami Satterfield, MSW, LCSW-C, NBCCH, HTP is a licensed psychotherapist who practices solution-oriented healing from a deep ecological perspective. Her specialities include hypnosis for anxiety, performance, and creativity. Sessions on-line or in Boulder, Colorado include cutting edge brain therapies that will change the way you think. Learn more at attentiontoliving.com

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What’s love got to do with it? Well Tina, just about everything. Saturn turns direct tomorrow while squaring Venus in Virgo. You can pretend you already know everything there is to know about love or you can be inspired to learn more. As that Neptune fog has been clearing this week, some things have become clear. I just heard from another healer who said her client expressed a great deal of clarity on an issue and then at the close of their session, proceeded to walk head on and smack-dab into a glass door!  Talk about shattering her illusions!

It is all about relationships right now and remember that relationships include all relationships- to yourself, to others, to your cat, to your garden, to your computer. They all start with you. If you examine each of them, even briefly, you may notice a common thread. Not seeing this common thread can be like running into a crystal clear wall.  You don’t know what you are up against until you hit it. Check that thread out, that fine line of common distinction is like the DNA of your relationship intellignence.

According to the Greeks there are 6 kinds of love. Eros love is equivillant to our concept of sexual passion and wild desire. Like in the old movies where he can’t contain himself any longer and he grabs her almost violently and kisses her long and hard. Today, in a court of law that might be considered assault.  But it is notion many of us were raised on.  The Greeks thought the idea of falling madly in love was dangerous and produced an irrational state of being. Is it clear to you that if you desire to fall madly in love that you may relinquish judgement? Are you running into that now?

Philia love is that deep, foundational friendship that develops when you have endured together and come out the other side feeling safe enough to share your deepest thoughts and feelings. It provides you strength to move forward with support and in collaboration. All for one and one for all. Can you see this in your life?

Ludus is that love connection that comes in flirtation. It is playful and verges on something dangerous, but falls short of any risk. It can feel thrilling, reminding you of all the possibilities in being alive. How much of your life do you see through this window or have you drawn the blinds to it?

Agape love is that universal loving kindness. The recognition that all sentient and non-sentient beings deserve respect. It is a love that understands a greater perspective. Can you witness that in your life or are you always looking at things under a microscope?

Pragma love is for the long haul and is experienced in time and over time. It requires patience and compassion. It favors growth and evolution. It arrives in the creation of something useful. Can you visualize what you are creating now and see what it will come to be in the future? Can you see how what you are creating is fashioned in love?

And now last, but far from least, there is Philautia love. It is that love that is for self, but is not selfish. Philautia love allows you to see yourself as a part of something larger then yourself. Philautia love understands the logic in self-love.  That if you are a part of something greater, in order to express love to the greater part, you must express it to yourself first. Without Philautia you can not express any form of love. Self-love is the foundation that the experience of receiving love is built upon.It isn’t possible to nurture the varieties of love or utilize the many sources of love without the experience of self-love first.

Do you regret the payments on your version of a fully loaded sports car that made you feel sexy? How do you reconcil that? Can you fall madly in love and still wake up in the morning feeling good? If your greatest friend in your life is your version of a Golden Retriever, is that okay? Can a human’s best friend inspire flirtation that may lead to dancing the night away, followed by waking up in the morning ready to tackle that new group project at work? Can you love your self enough to yes and no for the better good of yourself and others?  And what about technology, do you love to hate your computer, your phone, Facebook? Are you stuck in those kinds polarities in other places in your life?  Are you attracting opposites that are complimentary and bring balance, or do they remain polarized and work against each other?  Does the way you practice expressing love color the way you see love?

Love is more then you might think it is. Love is in the air. It is there for the taking. It is free and abundant. You might already be running smack-dab into it. Love is fun. Love is silly. Love feels good. Go ahead and shatter any illusions or delusions you have about love. Wake up and smell the coffee.  Come in out of the rain.  Notice the fog has lifted.  Free yourself to experience the breadth of love. Come and get your love.


In the midst of what you see as problematic, it can be difficult to recognize the opportunities. I can help you discover a new way of thinking that will assist you in managing and negotiating life’s obstacles. You will find that this new way of thinking provides you opportunities that you hadn’t previously noticed as well as affords you the confidence and desire to live your life in the driver’s seat.

Tami Satterfield, MSW, LCSW-C, NBCCH, HTP is a licensed psychotherapist who practices solution-oriented healing from a deep ecological perspective. Her specialities include hypnosis for anxiety, performance, and creativity. Sessions on-line or in Boulder, Colorado include cutting edge brain therapies that will change the way you think. Learn more at attentiontoliving.com

db7b9fcb75c30e87bc8235fb6e9a8d32“When the power of love overcomes the love of power, the world will know peace.” J. Hendrix

We are halfway through the moon cycle and headed towards the full moon in Capricorn on July 19. Things are about to change and we will all best benefit by leading in peace. As we head towards the full moon there is a strong current of feminine energy to help us all prepare.

So let’s get this straight and out of the way. Everyone has or has had breasts; like femininity, they are not gender specific. This brief anatomy lesson reminds you of something you already knew. You, like everybody, have access to, as well as a store of, feminine energy. It is that self-confident, inner strength that is not only receptive and magnetic, but inspires such.

It reminds me how often we humans say, “I just want to feel loved.” It reminds me how often we can feel that desire, that longing. It is not something we just think or say; we feel it deeply. Right between the breasts at the heart center.

If you would like, you can move with this feminine energy all week to prepare and embrace the coming change.

1. Employ feminine energy. Put it to loving use. A kind word to the cashier at the market. Holding the door for another. Sharing joy through laughter.

2. Appreciate a respite from the predictable in favor of following your own intuition. Consider doing something different.  Follow your curiosity.  See things from the perspective of an ant and then a giant.

3. Prepare to receive what your life is soon to offer you. Expect that it will be fruitful no matter. Embrace the perfection of how seemingly imperfect life can sometimes seem. Recognize that it can seem that way until your misconception of it forces you to see it differently.  Then marvel that it can seem perfect again.


In the midst of what you see as problematic, it can be difficult to recognize the opportunities. I can help you discover a new way of thinking that will assist you in managing and negotiating life’s obstacles. You will find that this new way of thinking provides you opportunities that you hadn’t previously noticed as well as affords you the confidence and desire to live your life in the driver’s seat.

Tami Satterfield, MSW, LCSW-C, NBCCH, HTP is a licensed psychotherapist who practices solution-oriented healing from a deep ecological perspective. Her specialities include hypnosis for anxiety, performance, and creativity. Sessions on-line or in Boulder, Colorado include cutting edge brain therapies that will change the way you think. Learn more at attentiontoliving.com

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Artwork by Jslattum

I say,
“I shall always love this place forever,”
But can I manage the burden of such a love?
Would it overshadow my life
Until I was lost in the dark side of it.
Swallowed up like Jonah.
I feel that now,
Casting nets of doubt and distrust –
Trapped
In the folds of a churning belly,
Making amends
My lot in life.

Say instead,
“I shall always have the love of this place.”
Handy as a memory –
A sunny day,
Warm light flooded the kitchen
Bathed in yellow glory.
I feel that now.
Casting out regret,
Washed clean
In my own free will,
Manifesting
The purpose of my being.

September 2014

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OBITUARY 07/10/14

Oh, my heavy heart.

My dear friend, Ringo, departed.

Gone from this world on the energy of this full moon in Capricorn, he takes with him my love and leaves me our sweet memories, now blunt and thorny – bittersweet. How fitting — he was an old goat.

A fine creature. A noble, four legged, hoofed beast with the patience and benevolence of a saint. He was friendly and generous with his time. Anyone who knew him said so. It was true. It was the truth of him. He was a beautiful, old, charitable soul.

I will sorely miss his company. Lumbering my way, his head lifting to meet my approach. The look of curiosity in his wild eyes, meeting me half way, walking all the way at my side, chewing his cud seeming to mull over my mood. I will miss rubbing the brittle old scratchy hairs, white with age, on the sides of his face. I will miss nearly kissing his black goat lips, the temptation if it weren’t for the green goo in his teeth. I will miss his lordly belching and pissing, his physiological response to my presence – his way of substantiating rapport, teaching me that we were in fact similar and not different – both tethered souls to ever-aging bodies. I long one more look at his broken polled horn that gave the impression of a skewed halo. One last tug at the tuft of hairs bearded at his chin. What I would do for one last time of sharing peppermint candies.

The last time I did see him, he looked me straight in my eyes. It seemed odd, him looking straight through me. He looked straight into my eyes and I misunderstood him. “Are you okay?” I asked. He held my gaze. I mistook what he said, didn’t know he was looking past the old body of me and into my soul. I didn’t know he was saying goodbye. It doesn’t make any difference that I am a slow learner. He knew. He knew I would figure it out.

How lucky am I to have known him – to have studied and practiced lessons of life under his sage guidance?

May he rest in peace. Ringo, the last of the bad boys.

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What are the hardest things to love about you? Something you’ve done? Something you are doing? A way you feel or think? What does it feel like to even allow yourself to consider what these things might be? What do you think of how you feel about it?

Give yourself a chance. Take a moment and write down as many of these as you can. I know, stay with me though. Go ahead and make the list as quickly as possible with as little thought possible to what you are writing down.

The hardest things for me to love about myself are:

Now, look at the list. As you look at it, you might be able to appreciate why you belief that someone like yourself is not deserving of genuine love. You might notice your own aversion to the list and then to yourself. This resistance can cause you to become fractured, rejecting the “unloveable” parts of yourself.

Take another moment. For yourself, take another moment. Breathe. Ask the question, “Why did I …?” and allow yourself to sit still. Go ahead and be with that of which you resist. Allow it to grow bigger within you. Really feel what you are fighting. Notice how complicated it is. Allow yourself to learn “why.” Breathe. Ask the question, “What do I want to do about what I just learned?”

For example: A man is very critical of his wife’s interactions with other men at social gatherings. He thinks she pays too much attention to other men when she should be paying attention to him. The man does not like that he feels angry towards his wife when he thinks about the times when he believed she didn’t pay enough attention to him. He realizes that when he feels this way, he is thinking that she doesn’t love him enough and that makes him angry. When he asks himself why, he learns that he is afraid she will abandon him. He realizes that this feeling is a familiar one with it’s roots reaching deeply into his past. At this juncture, he can decide what HE wants to do about it. He can appreciate his own responsibility for this feeling, consider that relief from the feelings has little-to-nothing to do with his wife, and set about doing something different- forgiving and loving himself. By directly confronted his underlying fear, he can release himself from the thought pattern that was supporting a hidden belief of unworthiness. The belief of unloveable.

Thinking of yourself as unworthy of love is a thought. If you think it over and over it becomes a belief. Beliefs guide our thoughts, thoughts inform our emotions, and emotions inform our physiology. This is how you make a thought your reality, you believe it is so and you literally create it’s existence, first in your own body. It is nice to know that any thought can be replaced by a different thought, and therefore changing your world- and then the world. One thought at a time.

So now, adjust your thought of being fundamentally flawed and unworthy of love with the thought, that regardless of your past experiences, you can now take full responsibility for your life. Use the power of this to attract love into your life. When you are able to accomplish this, you will feel differently about yourself, and other people will feel differently about you. Love is a healing energy. Bring your consciousness to it. Recognize exactly what you are resisting, and recognize IT as what stands between you and the experience of love. Ask yourself, “What do I want to do about that?” And then, do it!

March 23, 2014