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You might remember, I’m not an astrologist but I do like to look at things from lots of different perspectives. It can be helpful to observe life from a cellular level and then all the way out to the ethers. Here’s a snapshot of how you might want to see today’s universal weather.

The moon might be conjuncting Mars and Neptune in Pisces as I write. No matter what, it’s happening. This alongside a slew of planets already retrograde makes clarity a scarce commodity. Wasn’t it Ann Lennox of the Eurythmics who sang, “Sweet dreams are made of cheese.” That’s right, right?

Right now the only thing clear is that communication is messy. This way one moment and that way the next. Whether it’s yourself or others you’re in communication with it’s easy to misunderstand and be misunderstood. Moving forward is in circles. Patience is required. Mind the brainwashing that can come with such polarities.

So why not wake up and smell the roses. Nothing too progressive is happening. Whatever fire is before you, it’s likely been burning like this for a bit. It has its own intelligence now. It’s not yielding. Another way said, it’ll do what it wants. Take the weekend to get away while attending to the party. Whatever that means. How ever that can happen. Weeding, organizing a closet, a walk in the park of solidarity. You see what I mean. Whatever you do, do it with equanimity. Bring balance to the circular progression by staying awake in and enlivened to your life.
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In the midst of what you see as problematic, it can be difficult to recognize the opportunities. I can help you discover a new way of thinking that will assist you in managing and negotiating life’s obstacles. You will find that this new way of thinking provides you opportunities that you hadn’t previously noticed as well as affords you the confidence and desire to live your life in the driver’s seat.

Tami Satterfield, MSW, LCSW-C, NBCCH, HTP is a licensed psychotherapist who practices solution-oriented healing from a deep ecological perspective. Her specialities include hypnosis for anxiety, performance, and creativity. Sessions on-line or in Boulder, Colorado include cutting edge brain therapies that will change the way you think. Learn more at attentiontoliving.com

WwNKDXkI have been up since three am shaking the trees. I set my alarm based on the forecast and when it went off I turned on the outside light hoping against the odds that it wouldn’t be true, but it was.

Big, wet flakes were pouring from the night sky. I wanted to be frantic, after all what kind of a world do I live in where it snows on my gorgeous purple Foxglove – testing their spines for endurance, or the giant peony beginning to splay over, what about the hosta and don’t even talk to me about the brand new Japanese Maple with its fragile new leaves. I was off to the races.

What a cruel, cruel world. And there I was, out in it. Wet, heavy snow demanding that everything bend to its ruling. Headlight over the top of my hat, donned in a sweater and rain coat, the poor choice of snow boots when rain boots were for the job. Forget about gloves, my fingers are now worthless. Get the picture. This is still going on at 10 am, out every hour shaking off the threat.

It is not so much that it is snowing, it never lasts long here and it is pretty. It is more that it is not what I thought would happen and even knowing that it might happen, I didn’t really know what I could do about it. I felt helpless against the odds.

There is an ABUNDANCE of that out there right now: helpless against the odds. You don’t need me telling you that. We all know, and we are all tired of the reminder that there is no control. I got the memo, you got the memo, but still it bears reminders.  I can control nothing. I never could and I never will. It is impossible. Physics won’t allow for it. NO CONTROL, only influence.

The good thing about influence is that it is more powerful then control because it endures. Those staked garbage bags over my Foxglove? They are working with me to keep those stunning flowers healthy, and I am working with them by shaking off the snow they are keeping out so together we can keep on protecting my flowers. I, in collaboration with those bags, the snow, and the foxglove, am influencing a different outcome.

The opposition between Venus and Jupiter is big. There is good potential for magnifying the importance of things, letting things get blown out of proportion. If needed, re-read the first paragraph. Be mindful to that which you set an alarm. You don’t have to be alarmed and you don’t have to make it alarming. Do what you want. Create the life you want to live.

Pluto in Capricorn is squaring the opposition between Venus and Jupiter. This can likely incite the manipulative tactic of he said, she said, the dog said. This kind of communication is fraught with hostility, aggression and, I am sad to say – meant to harm.

Be mindful. Stay grounded. Remember what you want. Act in your best interest. See what happens that you like and can build on. Me? I am looking forward to seeing those wonderful Foxglove after the snow.


In the midst of what you see as problematic, it can be difficult to recognize the opportunities. I can help you discover a new way of thinking that will assist you in managing and negotiating life’s obstacles. You will find that this new way of thinking provides you opportunities that you hadn’t previously noticed as well as affords you the confidence and desire to live your life in the driver’s seat.

Tami Satterfield, MSW, LCSW-C, NBCCH, HTP is a licensed psychotherapist who practices solution-oriented healing from a deep ecological perspective. Her specialities include hypnosis for anxiety, performance, and creativity. Sessions on-line or in Boulder, Colorado include cutting edge brain therapies that will change the way you think. Learn more at attentiontoliving.com

originalThese days it may seem as if it has never been truer that the probability of survival is equal to the angle of arrival.  While it may have been said that flying is the second greatest thrill known to humans, landing is the first!

We have a lunar eclipse pending in Leo tonight. I am looking forward to it. I could use a lift from the same old news and Leo is just the creative entrepreneur I want when I am figuring how to get around the turbulence of my old patterns and history.

Saturn is aspected in Sagittarius for this eclipse. Argh!  What a drag.  My “around the world, free as a bird, solo flight” will now be chaperoned with the harsh  judgments of a “straighten up and fly right” kind of bird.  This is going to require some major wind beneath my wings in order to make any progress.

I hear you, why is there always a drag? I know, who wants a drag?  But that drag serves purpose in the aerodynamics of ascension.  It creates a necessity to welcome one thing while embracing another. The trajectory forward is found through the resistance of the two opposed energies. The resistance can provide balance until we have momentum in what can be, the choppy blue yonder.

Mind feeling that resistance as a force against you, particularly one that you imagine you need to defend yourself from.  Instead, remember that the resistance is going to allow you to move forward.  It is not what you think.  It is not holding you back, it is there to get you up and going!

This month, consider practicing in tandem with the resistance and take off and land from the high ground.

  1. Change your mind to feel comfortable with the benefits of resistance.
  2. Mind thinking about changing other people’s minds until you have changed yours.
  3. Get clear AND curious (no judgment) about what you want.
  4. Simotaneously respect your ideas and those that seemingly oppose your ideas.
  5. Find the tension between the seemingly opposed and utilize that tension as common ground for take off and landing.

Afterall, flying is undoubtedly an adventure in discovery, but a good take off and a safe landing can’t be beat.


In the midst of what you see as problematic, it can be difficult to recognize the opportunities. I can help you discover a new way of thinking that will assist you in managing and negotiating life’s obstacles. You will find that this new way of thinking provides you opportunities that you hadn’t previously noticed as well as affords you the confidence and desire to live your life in the driver’s seat.

Tami Satterfield, MSW, LCSW-C, NBCCH, HTP is a licensed psychotherapist who practices solution-oriented healing from a deep ecological perspective. Her specialities include hypnosis for anxiety, performance, and creativity. Sessions on-line or in Boulder, Colorado include cutting edge brain therapies that will change the way you think. Learn more at attentiontoliving.com

 

 

 

 

 

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We are all liars.  It sounds grim, I know, but it is true.  It starts with the lies we tell ourselves, and those begin about the time we learn the meaning of the word “no.”  

“What? This is an outrage!  What do you mean that I can’t have what I want?”  We drop to the ground, fists pounding the earth, feet kicking furiously against the injustice of it all.

What we are really objecting to is the realization that we are not singular, separate, or fixed.  The truth is that we exist experientially, and this causes us to resist the physical reality of that very situation.  Why?  Because if we admitted to ourselves that we were, in fact, not singular, separate, or fixed, it would mean that we are of the collective and therefore are dynamic.  And what does that mean to us?  It means that our limbic brain and our neocortex have conspired to convince us to lie to ourselves about the 100% truth of the greatest matter concerning our existence: WE ARE GOING TO DIE.  We are.  I am sorry if this is the first you are hearing this fact.

This could be a tough week to learn that we are going to die: with Neptune turning retrograde and increasing that mutable T-square; with Mars in Scorpio going for the jugular; and with Mercury, Gemini, and Saturn playing head games.  There is more, but do we really need to hear more?  Isn’t it enough to be confronted this week with the greatest lie of all, the one where we convince ourselves everyday that we are not going to die. 

This fundamental fact (I won’t say it again, but you know to which that I am referring) is balanced by our fundamental mind-skewing that allows our reptilian brains to let us go about living while we are able.  How else would we get out of bed?  

How do we do it?  How do we lie to ourselves?  Do we deaden our reality with mindaltering practices, the likes of more then just drugs, alcohol, and food?  Are we caught up in the distractions of how to measure the polarities of good and bad or right and wrong?  Or are we drinking some concoction that allows us to defend against the truth of our own mortality by projecting our own entitlement above all?  Ouch!  But if that sounds harsh, we might want to consider why it packs such a punch.  Just because we figured out how to get out of bed and rise above the truth of our own existence, that doesn’t mean that we are entitled.

Bottom line: the point of this week is not to wreak havoc on our life. The point of this week is to confront our perpetual ignorance.  Let Scorpio take us deep into it.  And this week let’s not just consider it, let’s let the warrior in Mars guide us to confront our own mortalities. This week, let’s fight for our lives for the sake of all goodness.  And then – yes I am a little fired up here – and then let’s decide, and I mean decide, for the sake of of it all decide, each of us decide, “What do we want to do about it?”  What do we want to do about the fact that we are alive on planet earth.  We are not singular; we are a part of a greater ecosystem.  We are not separate; we are a part of a greater ecosystem.  We are not fixed; we are dynamic in a dynamic ecosystem.  

So here it is. The truth of it all always eludes us. How could we possible know anything for certain? We are a part of something so big we can’t even fathom it. And if that doesn’t blow your mind – this stupendous thing we are a part of  – it is changing all the time. And at the same time that it is always changing –  we are always changing too.  Holy smokes, for sure!  

This week let’s drop the idealistic veil, stop distracting ourselves and get real.  Let’s prepare to die with honor, dignity, and love. Let’s stop stepping on ants and pretending that it doesn’t matter.  Let’s stop perpetuating small acts of self-hostility that lead to big shifts in the collective consciousness. Let’s live with honor, dignity and love.  After all, that is the only way to prepare to die a good death.

Okay, this is almost over.  I think I hear hubby coming down the hall.  He will help me up off the floor. Besides my fists are feeling a bit raw and I think I scuffed my pedicure.

 

In the midst of what you see as problematic, it can be difficult to recognize the opportunities. I can help you discover a new way of thinking that will assist you in managing and negotiating life’s obstacles. You will find that this new way of thinking provides you opportunities that you hadn’t previously noticed as well as affords you the confidence and desire to live your life in the driver’s seat.

Tami Satterfield, MSW, LCSW-C, NBCCH, HTP is a licensed psychotherapist who practices solution-oriented healing from a deep ecological perspective. Her specialities include hypnosis for anxiety, performance, and creativity. Sessions on-line or in Boulder, Colorado include cutting edge brain therapies that will change the way you think. Learn more at attentiontoliving.com

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We still have that Mercury-Mars opposition going on, but there is a bright side. The Moon is in Leo through Friday.

There is a lot of thinking going on right now. So much consideration might make you restless and even a bit intolerant whether it is of someone else or of yourself. Have you ever felt like you might explode from impatience or even anticipation if things don’t begin to happen? This kind of energy can show up more like the feeling you have when you are stuck in traffic, then the feel you had when you were a kid, sitting at the head of the kitchen table in front of a slew of birthday presents.

Over the weekend, see if you can shift from the “Come on, come on. MOVE!” narrative. You know the one.  It is where you think nobody else is in a hurry too. It is the one where you might even feel like you are loosing respect for others or yourself. Shift out of that storyline and into the one where June Cleaver is your mom. You know June won’t make you wait that long before you can dive into all that you’ve been imagining is in store for you.

Resist arguing with others and yourself. Take it easy. Use your breath. Breath in for the count of 4, hold it for 2, and exhale for 6. Feel your feet on the ground. Feel your feet on the ground. And as Sister Anthony always said, “Three times and it is yours,” so one more time – feel your feet on the ground.

Lighten up. Let the sun shine. See the big picture. Keep that perspective. Because otherwise, it might be a lot of drama.

In the midst of what you see as problematic, it can be difficult to recognize the opportunities. I can help you discover a new way of thinking that will assist you in managing and negotiating life’s obstacles. You will find that this new way of thinking provides you opportunities that you hadn’t previously noticed as well as affords you the confidence and desire to live your life in the driver’s seat.

Tami Satterfield, MSW, LCSW-C, NBCCH, HTP is a licensed psychotherapist who practices solution-oriented healing from a deep ecological perspective. Her specialities include hypnosis for anxiety, performance, and creativity. Sessions on-line or in Boulder, Colorado include cutting edge brain therapies that will change the way you think. Learn more at attentiontoliving.com

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I was visiting with a fellow human being this week, an artist, a healer. She told me something that I have considered all week. Perhaps it was the reference to something so mysterious, or maybe it was how it incited my imagination, or maybe it was that it is just a fact. Things, people, even places disappear, and we never lay eyes on them again. But that is not exactly what she said.  What she said was, “Let go of the single socks in your sock drawer.”

When she said it, I imagined all the missing socks. They were hiking in droves, some massive migration. To where, I don’t know.  All I know is that they were leaving. They never left a note, never a word indicating their imminent departure. One day, they just up and left. So do I keep the other single socks in hopes of the return of the now invisible others? Or do I keep them as a reminder that things can go missing? A sort of tally of things that I have lost. Or do I keep them to shepherd the lonely and abandoned; after all, I have been lonely and abandoned in my life and I wouldn’t want someone to toss me in the rag bag or worse, the kitchen trash bin.

At some point in my life, I noticed the single socks. And being an organized sort of person, I set up a system to manage this dilemma.  It is my nature to make sense of things. So I periodically gathered the losers up, tied them into a parcel using one of their own and, on the next inquiry, if their mates didn’t show up, I tossed the lot of them. Poor things, it was rare that the others ever returned. And I did feel badly. I wanted the others to return, for everyone to feel whole and happy again. It was a practical system I had developed, but even so, it didn’t suit another aspect of my being.  I am a romantic. It felt cruel, or at least wasteful. There was so much potential in the metaphor; too much to just throw it all away. So for a while the kids and I turned them into puppets, stuffed them with cat nip, or wore them as mismatched as they were.

What about the socks in your sock drawer? How many have jumped ship? How many are determined to stay the course as reminders of what could have been, or of what once was? And what about you? Do you even know what is in there? Are you afraid to look? Is it easy to let the loners go? Is it necessary to help them find new meaning in life? Can you let go of the great mystery of what happens to the socks? And then how do you live in a world where things just up and disappear?

Today is the new moon in Gemini. It is conjunct with the Sun and Venus and nicely aspected by Jupiter. Think a perfect pair of the finest socks. You love them. They are the best money can buy. Go ahead and wear them with the satisfaction of knowing that even if they disappear, you will always have Paris.

In the midst of what you see as problematic, it can be difficult to recognize the opportunities. I can help you discover a new way of thinking that will assist you in managing and negotiating life’s obstacles. You will find that this new way of thinking provides you opportunities that you hadn’t previously noticed as well as affords you the confidence and desire to live your life in the driver’s seat.

Tami Satterfield, MSW, LCSW-C, NBCCH, HTP is a licensed psychotherapist who practices solution-oriented healing from a deep ecological perspective. Her specialities include hypnosis for anxiety, performance, and creativity. Sessions on-line or in Boulder, Colorado include cutting edge brain therapies that will change the way you think. Learn more at attentiontoliving.com

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Thursday is the full moon in Scorpio. Some deep stuff is finally dug out. I am a deep ecological therapist. That means that I am interested in a person’s ecology from their cells all the way out to the cosmos.  That is a lot of ground to cover.  But it can be surprising how manageable it is, once you discover the patterns.

So, some deep stuff is coming up. I see it everywhere. In the tulips and daffodils. In the budding trees. In the sleepy bears awakening from the likes of a Rip Van Winkle nap. This stuff coming up feels a little like spring cleaning. I am not even thinking to much about it. Just taking it in and letting it go.

What I am doing, though, is feeling.

I am feeling how good it feels to finally awaken to some facts. Some facts that previously were hard for me to believe. I didn’t even know that I was struggling to believe them. I thought I believed them. I was deciding things about them. I was thinking about them and considering them, as I thought about my future. But that was only half of it. That was only the thinking part, and it was a lot of thinking! I was stuck in my head. Picture me as nothing but a big head – some kind of Thanksgiving day parade balloon of myself.  My head was so big with thinking, that I began to misunderstand that is was the universe.

I was in my own way. Thinking, thinking, thinking! “You better think about it,” someone once said to me, but I was rarely taught to consider how it made me feel. And the way out of my own way?  The way out of the hamster wheel of thinking?  The way out of mistaking my thinking as real?  The way out of only half living my life?

The way out, is inside the body. So, I dropped into my body and notice that while I thought I could believe these facts, my system was in shock. My system was stuck in the past. I was like a deer caught in headlights over this matter. I couldn’t move. What I was really thinking was, “I can’t believe this happened.”

What can’t you believe happened? Take this week and let it come up. Embrace the promise of it. See it. And then think first: maybe I can believe this happened, then think: I believe this happened, and finally think: this happened.

Let spring help you re-birth into the truth of your life with promise and hope. Start tending the garden that is really your life. Feel how it feels to be alive. Life is messy. Go ahead and get dirty. It is not as bad as you think.

Tami Satterfield is a licensed psychotherapist who practices solution-oriented healing from a deep ecological perspective. Her specialities include hypnosis for anxiety, performance, and creativity. Sessions on-line or in Boulder, Colorado include cutting edge brain therapies that will change the way you think. Learn more at attentiontoliving.com

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“Hurry up so I can leave you,” that is what this past moon cycle has been about. The pressure had been building through the new moon cycle and reached it’s tipping point for me Sunday morning, just a day before the full moon.

I like Sunday mornings. I stay in bed longer with my half-a-cup of coffee and consider the personal aspects of my life in a wide variety of ways, one that includes social media. This past Sunday morning I opened a response to a post I posted on the neighborhood network. I had asked if anyone knew of a local group concerned with Fluoride in the public water. Folks responded with, what I at first dismissed as, “well intended” messages concerning my misunderstanding about the benefits of Fluoride. I felt a sense of frustration, but reasoned these people meant well, even though it made me feel a tad queasy at the center of my heart.

I was afraid. I was afraid that they were judging me. “It is okay,” I assured myself, “Everyone has the right to their opinion- including me.” I took a deep breath and attempted to clear some of that fear off my chest. “They are only trying to be helpful,” I told myself, but still I was irritated. The irritated part of me pushed forward, “Yes, but why all the help around something I didn’t ask? I didn’t ask to be told what to think. I asked if anyone knew of an organized group for a specific concern.” The reasonable side of me counter, “Yes, but not everyone sees things your way.” “Exactly!” The irritated part of myself said, “And thus my inquiry to discover like minded people!” I took another deep breath, closed my eyes, and on the out breath attempted to balance the squabble brooding within my system. And then, there it was. Right there, in an easy to read Arial font, for all my neighbors and 14 nearby neighborhoods to see. Boldly, in black and white and on an illuminated screen.

“The Fluoride issue has been discussed thoroughly for decades among well educated and informed experts. Where have you been? If you are afraid of Fluoride and don’t believe in science, then go ahead and filter it out. But don’t bust the societal contract we have to protect our public health, particularly of those most vulnerable.”

Ouch! No more room for discussion for a fellow human who has been a lifetime resident of planet Earth? Does my inquiry some how imply that I am uneducated? And when does the level of my education dictate my right to ask a question of my neighbors? Is it a sign of being uninformed to hold a greater interest that includes a diverse collection of experts? Had my question exposed me as some reckless bore who was about to capsize the stability of public health? Oh, yeah! He found my vulnerability. That reptilian-brain fear, that if I am different from you, it is cause for quite the commotion. The likes of “Off with her head,” or “You! Out of the cave. NOW!” Out on my ear with only a rock to defend myself against the packs of Sabre-tooth Tigers.

This is an old fear. It runs through the bloodlines of humanity. I sat in my Sunday morning bed and thought about the past times when people got up-close and personal, looked me over like I was a melon at the market, and then walked away. That kind of judgement, makes it “hard to be green,” as Kermit the Frog would say. It is hard to feel balanced in who your are under such cursory evaluation.

I sat in bed and thought about the difference between, who I am, and who I am suppose to be. Then I thought, who do I want to be? Do I want to be what my fellow neighbor suggests that I am not? Am I what he suggests I am? Or, am I entirely something else? Then again, I thought, does it even matter if I know who I am? Is it even really possible to answer the question of, who am I, since I am always evolving? I was beginning to feel more grounded. Sorting through myself and the distortions of myself was taking a weight off my heart.

My conclusion? What matters more is that I know how I want to behave. Actions may speak louder than words. What I do will vibrate with a greater resonance through the universe, then what I say I am, or am not. The question of “who am I,” is always only answered by the question of “how do I behave.”

Behave the way you want to behave. Trust that what you want is good and wholesome. Trust that what you want is inspired by wisdom and not compelled by fear. Of course, I know that you want to know what I did. Well, I private messaged my fearful neighbor. I introduced myself as a human living with curiosity and an awareness of the organic nature of things. I told him I resided on the third planet from the Sun. I reminded him of my original question, explained that I asked it because I knew other cities had such groups, and then I told him that I was taken aback that my inquiry prompted such a publicly unkind response.

I can’t say that my response was “right.” I can say that it was inspired by my wisdom and not motivated by my fear. I can say that I don’t feel vindicated or afraid now. I feel normal now. I feel whole. I can say, that it just is okay to be me.

Tami Boehle-Satterfield is a psychotherapist who practices dynamic energy psychology therapies that include hypnosis for anxiety. You can learn more about her and her philosophy at attentiontoliving.com