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How do you write about something that people are afraid to see? How to you expose an undermining, but insidious practice? How do you change peoples’ minds? How does a civilization heal from the wounds of abuse?


The truth of all abuse is stored up in our body.  We can repress this truth, but our body will not deny the truth of it.  This is evidenced through physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual symptomatology.

The truth of all abuse is stored up in our families, our neighborhoods, our communities, our nations, the world, and the infinite universe.  Although we can repress it in all those places, the truth speaks through the physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual symptomatology.

Our individual and collective minds can be misled, our understandings confused, our feelings distorted, and but our bodies and the collective bodies of sentient and non-sentient beings contain abuse in it’s pristine form.  Until it is processed, abuse will remain the elephant in the room.  Until we recognize individually and collectively the space it occupies, it will remain largely ignored.  It will remain the obvious, but unaddressed truth, until we individually and collectively process the experience of abuse as destructive and replace the practice of abuse with constructive behavior designed for evolution and not diminution of health and evolution.

Can we believe individually and collectively that it is the law of nature to evolve in health  and wholeness? Rest assured that our individual and collective bodies will not forget, until we individually and collective, forgive ourselves for our propensities towards harm, and act in the wisdom of having done so.

Tami Boehle-Satterfield, MSW, LCSW-C, NBBCH, HTP, a licensed psychotherapist at has challenged herself in 2016 to post week about the unpopular topic of abuse. Learn more about Tami at