What’s love got to do with it? Well Tina, just about everything. Saturn turns direct tomorrow while squaring Venus in Virgo. You can pretend you already know everything there is to know about love or you can be inspired to learn more. As that Neptune fog has been clearing this week, some things have become clear. I just heard from another healer who said her client expressed a great deal of clarity on an issue and then at the close of their session, proceeded to walk head on and smack-dab into a glass door! Talk about shattering her illusions!
It is all about relationships right now and remember that relationships include all relationships- to yourself, to others, to your cat, to your garden, to your computer. They all start with you. If you examine each of them, even briefly, you may notice a common thread. Not seeing this common thread can be like running into a crystal clear wall. You don’t know what you are up against until you hit it. Check that thread out, that fine line of common distinction is like the DNA of your relationship intellignence.
According to the Greeks there are 6 kinds of love. Eros love is equivillant to our concept of sexual passion and wild desire. Like in the old movies where he can’t contain himself any longer and he grabs her almost violently and kisses her long and hard. Today, in a court of law that might be considered assault. But it is notion many of us were raised on. The Greeks thought the idea of falling madly in love was dangerous and produced an irrational state of being. Is it clear to you that if you desire to fall madly in love that you may relinquish judgement? Are you running into that now?
Philia love is that deep, foundational friendship that develops when you have endured together and come out the other side feeling safe enough to share your deepest thoughts and feelings. It provides you strength to move forward with support and in collaboration. All for one and one for all. Can you see this in your life?
Ludus is that love connection that comes in flirtation. It is playful and verges on something dangerous, but falls short of any risk. It can feel thrilling, reminding you of all the possibilities in being alive. How much of your life do you see through this window or have you drawn the blinds to it?
Agape love is that universal loving kindness. The recognition that all sentient and non-sentient beings deserve respect. It is a love that understands a greater perspective. Can you witness that in your life or are you always looking at things under a microscope?
Pragma love is for the long haul and is experienced in time and over time. It requires patience and compassion. It favors growth and evolution. It arrives in the creation of something useful. Can you visualize what you are creating now and see what it will come to be in the future? Can you see how what you are creating is fashioned in love?
And now last, but far from least, there is Philautia love. It is that love that is for self, but is not selfish. Philautia love allows you to see yourself as a part of something larger then yourself. Philautia love understands the logic in self-love. That if you are a part of something greater, in order to express love to the greater part, you must express it to yourself first. Without Philautia you can not express any form of love. Self-love is the foundation that the experience of receiving love is built upon.It isn’t possible to nurture the varieties of love or utilize the many sources of love without the experience of self-love first.
Do you regret the payments on your version of a fully loaded sports car that made you feel sexy? How do you reconcil that? Can you fall madly in love and still wake up in the morning feeling good? If your greatest friend in your life is your version of a Golden Retriever, is that okay? Can a human’s best friend inspire flirtation that may lead to dancing the night away, followed by waking up in the morning ready to tackle that new group project at work? Can you love your self enough to yes and no for the better good of yourself and others? And what about technology, do you love to hate your computer, your phone, Facebook? Are you stuck in those kinds polarities in other places in your life? Are you attracting opposites that are complimentary and bring balance, or do they remain polarized and work against each other? Does the way you practice expressing love color the way you see love?
Love is more then you might think it is. Love is in the air. It is there for the taking. It is free and abundant. You might already be running smack-dab into it. Love is fun. Love is silly. Love feels good. Go ahead and shatter any illusions or delusions you have about love. Wake up and smell the coffee. Come in out of the rain. Notice the fog has lifted. Free yourself to experience the breadth of love. Come and get your love.
In the midst of what you see as problematic, it can be difficult to recognize the opportunities. I can help you discover a new way of thinking that will assist you in managing and negotiating life’s obstacles. You will find that this new way of thinking provides you opportunities that you hadn’t previously noticed as well as affords you the confidence and desire to live your life in the driver’s seat.
Tami Satterfield, MSW, LCSW-C, NBCCH, HTP is a licensed psychotherapist who practices solution-oriented healing from a deep ecological perspective. Her specialities include hypnosis for anxiety, performance, and creativity. Sessions on-line or in Boulder, Colorado include cutting edge brain therapies that will change the way you think. Learn more at attentiontoliving.com