On the dark side of the moon you need not throw the baby out with the bath water.

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We are over the new moon now, or, as Pink Floyd sang in 1973, the dark side of the moon. Now is a good time to take care with your communications. In fact, with the influence of Virgo you might even say it is critical. Let Neptune help you connect to your intuition and communicate what you might be scared of admitting.

Lately, much has been coming up around relationships. This can be a time that a lot of us are renegotiating those silent agreements that we have made with others. All relationships are based on agreements, but those most troublesome are the agreements that we do not voice. The ones we make unconsciously tend to more binding for us.

Let me take a minute to talk a little bit about loyalty. It is a good time to investigate your own loyalties as we head into the influence of Leo. Loyalty is a virtue, right? Josiah Royce suggests that loyalty is, “the heart of all the virtues, the central duty amongst all the duties.” He proposes, acording to Wikipedia, that it is the basic moral principle from which all other principles are derived.  He goes on to say that loyalty is “the willing and ongoing devotion of a person to a cause that it is not merely a casual interest, but a wholehearted commitment to the cause.”

Wow, sounds good. Basic moral principle, wholehearted commitment, that is good stuff, right?  But I would like you to consider how you might be wired to interpret loyalty.  Within your DNA you may carry the understanding of the word loyalty as it first relaties to the litteral and collective agreement of servitude between a King and his dutiful people. In that first loyalty there was no room for dispute, or even disagreement. If you haven’t done an update recently on loyalty, it may still be programmed in your cognitive brain as a dutiful agreement to something that is NOW in the past. Remember the present is constantly slipping into the past as it proceeds into the future. So any loyalty you have is an agreement to the past.

Now it is fine to be loyal.  In fact, it may be helpful, but my point is that it is only serviceable to the greater good when it is made and kept through your free will.  In other words, it is only useful to the greater good if you want to be loyal.  Consider that loyalty is an abstract quality that may not be physically possible and is more serviceable when viewed as a state of mind or attitude. Any agreements you make are best served from a good attitude or state of mind that includes your free will, and is free of suggestions that compel your behavior.

Right now the universal weather, in the ethers and on planet Earth, is ripe for renegotiation of relationships. Those with yourself, with people, with creatures, with the planet, with your past, with your future.  You name it and you have good support right now for renegotiation. It doesn’t have to be us and them.  We don’t necessarily have to fight change.

Use this time well. Communicate clearly using an assertive communication style. Express your thoughts when you are clear how they resonate with your emotions. Do they match? Or are there inconsistencies in what you think and what you emote? Are you not sure what you emote? What does your body tell you through it’s sensations? Are you sick to your stomach, is you heart racing ahead? Get to the bottom of the inconsistencies? What have you agreed to that undermines your basic sense of self? When you know these answers, you will know the foundation of the problem.  And you will likely have arrived at some past loyalty that no longer serves your best interest or the best interest of those around you.

Get some perspective. Can you ground yourself in the belief that life is a process and not a product? It is to be experienced. It is messy and always welcomes a bit of tidying up. Bring some balance to your life.

Go ahead and clean up those old agreements that are holding you to relationships that are loyal to past beliefs. Respect yourself, respect the other, and renegotiate the old terms. No need to necessarily throw the baby out with the bath water. It is okay. In the end, night follows day and day follows night. It is as it is. Be present to that NOW.


In the midst of what you see as problematic, it can be difficult to recognize the opportunities. I can help you discover a new way of thinking that will assist you in managing and negotiating life’s obstacles. You will find that this new way of thinking provides you opportunities that you hadn’t previously noticed as well as affords you the confidence and desire to live your life in the driver’s seat.

Tami Satterfield, MSW, LCSW-C, NBCCH, HTP is a licensed psychotherapist who practices solution-oriented healing from a deep ecological perspective. Her specialities include hypnosis for anxiety, performance, and creativity. Sessions on-line or in Boulder, Colorado include cutting edge brain therapies that will change the way you think. Learn more at attentiontoliving.com

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2 comments
  1. This is so perfectly relevant and helpful in how you worded it!

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